being different…..

zach is your  “typical” 17-year-old boy in every way except that he wears leg braces and does not have full function of his hands. lately things have begun to bother him about having charcot marie tooth. he can only drive his own car. it is adapted so that he controls the gas and breaks with his hands along with a few other tweaks. he asked me last week if he could move my car from the sidewalk to the driveway. i said no. my car is not adapted for him. he became very angry and frustrated with my answer. he has realized that as much as he can do anything, he cannot.

at an age where kids like to drive their parents “nice” car, he can’t. no big deal right? to him it is a big deal. i can tell him that he should be thankful that he can drive a car and that we are fortunate to be in a position to outfit his car for him. he doesn’t care. in his eyes he is different than other kids and will never be able to just get in a car and drive. he will always have to adapt things to make it work for him. why isn’t our society more aware of people with a different ability? why is it in 2016 we are still fighting to get paid as much as an able bodied person? why aren’t there more accessible entry ways? how about opening a can of soda? zach has to compensate for everything that people take for granted.  someone the other day asked me “how does he tie his sneakers”? i had to think about that for a second. he finds a way to do it.

in an age of self driving cars and phones where you can see someone on the other end, we are very antiquated with what is available to differently abled people. we have come a long way but we have so much farther to go. being a mother of a person with a physical disability, i also take things for granted. i don’t realize how hard it must be for zach to type on a computer or open a door. all door knobs are round. he cannot open his hand. wow, right?

20% of our country is made up of people with an intellectual or physical disability. thats a lot of people. i don’t want this post to come off as preachy. i just want to make people aware of this. I’m just a mom trying to make a better place for my kids. i have the means and ways to do this. many people don’t. making ones car adaptable to them should not cost a fortune, but it does. wearing legs braces should not cost someone 2 months salary. that is insane. i don’t want to hear about obamacare and health insurance. it is not about that. it is about quality of life.  yes quality of life. zach should not be frustrated because all shirts have buttons and he can’t button his shirt. make shirts that are adaptable to him.

i started this blog to try and make a difference for my child and other people like him. awareness brings about change. lets change the perception of people with disabilities.

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charcot marie tooth and fashion….

now that autumn  is upon us, i get all excited for the new fall fashion trends. i don’t have a disability but my son, zach, does. he has charcot marie tooth disease. he is at the age where he is starting to care about his sense of style and the clothes he wears.

he has minimal use of his hands, so jeans are pretty difficult for him. as are button down shirts, and jackets with zippers. basically anything that has buttons and zippers, which as you know is almost every article of clothing we wear. yes he can wear sweats everyday and a pullover t-shirt or sweater but why should he have to?

why don’t we have more “adaptable clothing” for people with disabilities? zach doesn’t wear jeans to school mostly because he can’t button or zip them up after using the restroom. isn’t that insane? a person NOT using the restroom because they can’t  zip or button their jeans. how demeaning and embarrassing is that for anyone but especially a teenager? we live in the year 2016. w have put men on the moon. we have phones with FaceTime but a person with a disability cannot wear a simple pair of jeans because they can’t close them?  sure he can carry a button aide around with him, but why should he have to? what if he forgets it at home? what if it breaks while he is using it?

zach is graduating high school this year and going to college next year. zach has always loved being independent. so why must he be dependent on a button aide or a person to help him get dressed?  simple things that people take for granted on a daily basis, zach must constantly worry about because of his charcot marie tooth disease. isn’t it hard enough growing up in this day and age? why should something as simple as getting dressed be an issue for people with disabilities? don’t people have enough to worry about?

there are a few designers that are making adaptable clothing. IZadaptive makes a fashionable and functional clothing line for people in wheelchairs. Runway of Dreams has partnered with Tommy Hilfiger to make adaptable clothing for children. MagnaReady has come out with a magnetized dress shirt for people with limited mobility. ABL Denim is a denim collection with adaptive features making them easier to get the jeans on and off. these are just a few but we need all designers and manufacturers to make adaptable clothing. people with disabilities make up more than 20% of our population. why should they not be able to dress comfortably, stylish and fashionably?

 

clothes make people feel good about themselves. there is nothing like a man in a crisp suit and tie or the feeling of putting on a new sweater on a cold day. don’t you remember being excited to wear your new outfit to school?  fashion is our way of expressing ourselves.  lets give everyone that opportunity. lets start somewhere!!!!